Yesterday, for the first time, I took my toddler, Presley to the movies. We were out and about and happened to walk by the local cinema. I quickly skimmed the movie listing and Rio 2 was about to begin in 15 minutes. So what the heck, we went in. Presley, probably like most toddlers (or not) is very busy. She needs to touch, examine, taste, look and climb on everything. Do you know how many ways a small child can sit in a movie chair? Well I’ll tell you, a lot. So this was a big experiment. It was a matinee and if she couldn’t handle sitting for two hours then we would leave. No big loss.
Just so happened she LOVED it! The movie was really cute though so I’m not surprised. She sat in her chair for the most part. I did have to hold it down the entire movie because it kept folding up with her in it. Imagine being so light that your chair doesn’t recognize your ass in it. That would be awesome.
While trying to enjoy the movie I started to experience braxton hix (false contractions). I had never had them before. I’m 7 months pregnant with twins so and I guess I’m not surprised. Although, I was. When they weren’t stopping, I started thinking… slash panicking… “What if I am going into labor?” “I cant leave, Presley is having so much fun.” “I’m not ready to not be pregnant anymore.”
The last one surprised me. I actually thought that I wouldn’t mind coming to a close with this pregnancy. Don’t get me wrong, pregnancy is a miracle and an absolute amazing thing. Growing human babies… Yeah, women can do that. Grow humans. In our body. What can you boys do? Thought so, we win.
Anyway, OFF TOPIC. Pregnancy isn’t easy though. With each day that goes by, you get bigger and bigger, your body morphs, you have issues with clothes, issues getting ready (who is this person looking back at me?), back pains, random body pains, weird leg limps after sitting for a little bit… It just doesn’t feel like the most comfortable and attractive time of your life. At least that’s how I feel on most days.
There are occasionally small glimpses of feeling beautiful. Like when the stomach grows past the, it looks like I drank a six pack all by myself last night, bloated look. The pregnant stomach is kind of remarkable. Invasive, but remarkable. So after realizing I was was not prepared to be done with this pregnancy, I wanted to re-focus on the amazing aspects of it vs. just getting through it. All before the inevitable happens and pregnancy quickly becomes something of the distant past.
So here are some amazing little reminders to look back on when you need a boost!
1. You’re growing babies. They move around. Literally, you see body parts moving across your stomach. That’s your baby. The baby your going to be holding in your arms some day soon. That’s your baby that will be dancing to Shark Tale’s: “Car Wash” by Christina Aguilera, like Presley is doing right now. Holding up her lotion and makeup brushes while getting down to the closing credits.
For nine months you always have a little soul (or two) right there with you. Everywhere you are. How sweet is that?
2. The baby can hear your voice, the music you play, your hubby and in my case, their older sisters voice too. After hearing the three of us, the twins are most likely covering their little developing ears or trying to find their way back to that egg that got them into this mess in the first place.
Whether they like it or not they are already becoming familiar with the world they will soon be joining. All while rapidly developing, gaining weight and growing into a littler person that will someday likely look like you, your husband or maybe even both. So cute!
3. Other people seem to love seeing pregnant people. Obviously not all… but a lot. I am oblivious and forget that I look pregnant. When I’m out people will walk by smiling or say a sweet “good luck” and I literally think to myself, “how did they know?” I always ask my husband, “Do I look pregnant?” He’s like, “um, seriously?” People treat you with so much extra kindness and care, offering a seat or lending a hand. It seems to bring out the best in people.
5. For one time in your life you don’t have to worry about your body image or dieting. Your sole job is to take care of your baby. Its about them. Not you. And once you can accept that you can really enjoy it. Your body is such a smart “machine”. It knows better than your incessant mind chatter. It asks for what it needs through cravings, pains and exhaustion. It changes so that it can successfully carry that cute little mini you.
So as heartbreaking as it is the day you attempt to pull up your once skinny jeans and have them get stuck around your knees, it’s nothing to get discouraged about. It means your doing a good job making a home for your baby. It’s an opportunity to be selfless and put your babies needs ahead of yours. You’re going to do that once your baby is born anyway, so just start practicing nine months early. You don’t have that physical, external reminder of why you are doing this but you have that internal kick in the stomach to put you in your place.
This is all kind of crazy when you really analyze it. To be honest, I’m not very good with this one. I have to constantly remind myself. Well, one of my best friends actually does. Its hard, so it’s awesome to have that extra boost of confidence just a text message or quick convo away when you need it. That’s what girlfriends are for, right? Well, they are also there to tell you to go brush your hair and pull it together when they need to so it all equals out.
6. You supposedly get a pregnancy glow. I think its more of a sweat / hot flash “glow”… but why ruin it for others? Let’s continue calling it a gorgeous, pregnancy glow.
Needless to say, Presley and I got through our movie, no babies, just some false contractions eased by chugging lots of water. So with only a couple months left, I am going to focus on enjoying and helping these little babies prep for their arrival to the outside world. It will be a challenge but time goes by way too fast to not enjoy every moment of this crazy, beautiful time.
So for those of you that are in the same preggo boat as I am and are confronted with moments of disgust or over the top discomfort, just remember the purpose of what your body is actually doing. Remind yourself of the other beautiful things going on inside of you. And if you cant do that then call up your girlfriend(s) and they will remind you. Oh and lastly, walk away from the mirror. Don’t look back. I mean, I am ALMOST positive that when we moved all of my mirrors warped into those carnival crazy house mirrors that only reflect distortion. They will need to be replaced after the pregnancy. I’m sure yours did too.
Soak in your short nine months of growing a little miracle. It’s not very often that you get the opportunity to single-handedly make magic happen. Oh, and go see Rio 2 with your kid(s). Its really cute! To be safe, bring extra water…
“Everything grows rounder and wider and weirder, and I sit here in the middle of it all and wonder who in the world you will turn out to be.” – Carrie Fisher
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